I am in an OPEN Relationship!!! Sharing is CARING!!!

Ok sooo here we go with this open relationship business again and my opinion of what it means. Open Relationships to me simply means full disclosure and honesty (I am in a monogamous relationship and need to make this clear before he go Charlie Sheen on my Ass), lol, but it is open meaning we talk about and discuss EVERYTHING!!! If I did it, he knows it, I refuse to allow him to hear it through the grapevine or allow someone else to tell MY STORY!!! I told an 11 year old girl yesterday about telling her story 1st, she didn't get it but I am hoping one day she will remember that moment and understand exactly what that means.
People often assume open relationships mean everybody is able to have sex with whomever they please and nobody cares!!! If you and your mate make a commitment in whatever form, you should stick to it and be honest about it, let me make that clear. Whether it’s monogamous, swinging or dabbing in same sex relations (I am looking at YOU, cuz a lot of you dib and dab!!!), you should be able to tell your mate before the fact, NOT AFTER!!! If you can not tell your mate about it, then that is cheating and that is a BIG NO NO!!! I do not condone dishonesty, lying or CHEATING!!!
Let me back track a bit. I came to believe in the term open relationship, because I believe that often labels in relationships force people to be monogamous when they often have no desire to be; they only get into relationships out of selfishness and greed and because they don't want to see the other party with anyone else. That is the wrong reason to do it. I think that prior to a committed relationship there should be a degree of monoganimity (made this word up) and openness, where each party is free to do whatever or whomever they want and they should make a conscious decision not to because it is truly what it is that they want to do.  In order for me to be with you, you are going to be monogamous before we put a label on it, because that is truly what it is that you and I WANT to do. Not we screw everybody else have a talk and need to clean our houses up after the fact, the damn house should already be clean. I’m just saying. Now that is my opinion.
Now let’s talk about the general opinion of those around us. Each sex tends to view this a little differently, especially if they are speaking of the Open part meaning having sex with other individuals besides their mate and I thought to myself why is this?
Fellas, Fellas, Fellas!!!  You will have no qualms about having an open relationship on your end only. You will screw around and do the do and make sure their mate weren't the wiser but the minute the mate says lets make this thing open or let’s see other people, you will KNOCK HER HEAD CLEAN OFF, SO she better DUCK!!!! See this is when I mean, a man doesn’t necessary want to be monogamous, he just doesn’t want to take the chance at potentially having to share. A man assumes if you are screwing a guy, you must have feelings for this guy and rightfully so because for most women sex is filled with emotions. If a woman can separate the two a man assumes she is a loose Booty and that is not what that means. She can act like a lady and think like a MAN as Steve Harvey said (I think he said it, well I hope he said it or I just gave him credit where it isn’t due, oh well one up for that brother).
Now we Ladies have a hang up when it comes to open relationships because we are emotional creatures and often equate the act of sex with LOVE!!! Men equate the act of sex with SEX!!! BIG DIFFERENCE! Women assume that if a man can have sex with another woman then he must like her or she must have something that their partner does not. No chica its new Booty, nothing more nothing less, so get over it!!! You know some women KILL ME!! Pretending like they never had sex with a guy and they weren't just New BOOTY!!! Every guy that screwed you, did not LOVE YOU and some of them probably didn't even LIKE you so TRUST and believe a GUY can have sex with a CHICK and NOT LIKE HER!!! Just want some NEW BOOTY!!! Geesh. (Glad I got that off my CHEST, been dying to say this since forever).
So this is where the dishonesty factor comes in and how we kill the openness of the relationship tht should initially be there. Women start lying about their past and men often lie about their present. A person will only be as honest as you allow them to be in a relationship and nobody wants you looking at them with the ILK BBM Face when they are being honest. Fellas if you ask your girl if she kissed a girl before and she says yes, don’t be acting like it is soo strange when you own 100 porno tapes of girls doing God know what with other girls. GTFOH!!! And ladies if your man say he want to go to the go go bar, don’t be all hossididy and ask him why he always going there, he is going because he want to see some ASS that isn’t your ASS!! DUH!!! That is his new Booty, let him have it.

All I am saying is allow him to tell you the truth and he needs  to allow you to do the same. I hope that you all dare to venture into Open Territory. Be honest, be truthful and most inportantly BE YOURSELF and not just who or what your mate wants you to be!!! I wish you all the best in Life and LOVE!!!!